You may think that, but I’m gonna tell you right now that I’ve tested that theory and it doesn’t hold water. This isn’t the first person like this I’ve dealt with. When you’re nice, and you just politely say, ‘Thank you, but I’m not interested’, or ‘I’m not single’, or anything other than ‘you’re being a creep, get the fuck away from me’, they just keep trying. They keep trying to change your mind, and the longer you’re polite with them, the longer they get to make you uncomfortable.
"But why don’t you want to date me? I’m a nice guy.”
"Just give me a chance, you’ll see."
"Your boyfriend’s a jerk, I’d treat you so much better."
Or worse, they’ll try to ‘just be friends’ when it isn’t really what they want, and they’ll just wait in the wings, creepily pushing and waiting for you to be emotionally vulnerable.
And then, if after all that you still don’t want to fuck them or date them or be their little princess, they accuse you of leading them on and being a tease. Then you’re back to square 1 of being a bitch, and on top of that he knows where I work and would think he can push me around.
So I looked at all that, and rather than going through the whole song and dance, I decided my time and my emotions were more valuable to me than protecting the sanctity of the weird cultural give-and-take that was expected of me here (and may have ended with this guy occasionally, randomly texting me throughout my life and being unable to get away from his delusional ass), so I nipped it in the bud. I’d rather just cut through the bullshit and have him think I’m a bitch right away and move past it.